“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.”
– J.K. Rowling
Doing something stupid.
Follow your heart.
Try a new approach.
Pick yourself up again.
Find a way.
When we live, we fail. When we fail, we find direction. When we find direction, we truly live.
We need to stop being afraid of failing. It doesn’t make you less of a human being. It doesn’t make you worthless, useless or stupid. Failing is not the end of the world.
For so long I felt like a failure.
I have chalked up so many failures over my lifetime already that I sometimes collapsed under the sheer weight of it all. It flattened me. I had tried and tried and tried so many times and failed. Why were things not working out?
In a place of self-pity I wallowed. It felt like the end of the world. ‘Surely if so-and-so can manage this?’ or ‘If that person achieved that?’, why can’t I?
That place of self-pity served me no purpose. It made no difference. It paralysed me through fear. The fear of failure stopped me.
Only when I reached the deepest depths of despair and I had absolutely no other choice did I start taking risks again, start really living again. Sure, some things don’t go to plan, but instead of chalking them down to failure I see them as experience and lessons; as part of the story and journey to greater things.
So now I embrace failure. I see it as an opportunity to learn; a chance to make my life even better.
Every week I look at my failures. I regroup, I work out where I can do better. And I just keep trying.
Because surely that’s the beauty of failure? It can give you a new perspective and a chance for greater things.
Failure is a necessity.
So let’s change our perspective and embrace failure. Only then will we be able to see the crucial messages it sends us.