Most blogs offer YOU their advice but following the amazing shoes suggestions on this post, I have realised there is a wealth of varied knowledge out there to be tapped into.
And so, my first request for style advice is this: I am in a hair rut and I need a change. At the moment my hair is one length and naturally brown. I have spent years growing all the layers out because my hair was just too wispy for all that and I deemed my fringe impractical with my fieldwork in the tropics. But now I am just feeling so blah about my hair. I miss my fringe – I miss the way it framed my face and I miss the way it hid my unruly eyebrows. But I don’t miss the high maintenance of it all (another reason for my current state of hair).
I am also at a point in my life where little stragglers of grey are appearing and trying to grab each one of them to pull out is just too much effort and saddening at the same time (I will enjoy my long silver hair in a couple of decades time <- this has been much fantasised about). So it is necessary to colour my hair for the first time in years too.
(Some of my hair history)

My options are as follows:
1. Stay with the one-length hair and colour with dark brown hair dye.
2. Cut a fringe and colour dark brown.
3. Colour red.
4. Colour red AND cut fringe.

Here are some hairstyles I am particularly liking…

Let me know what you think!
(Photo credits: 1 2 3 4 5 6 -3 & 6 unknown)


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17 Responses

  1. Em

    4) Colour red and get a fringe.

    You could definitely pull off red and your fringe suits you. Maybe try a sweeping fringe though for something a bit different? Plus then you can twist it into a quiff of pin it to the side if it's being unruly.

  2. Harri

    just my $.02, but I think you should stay brown (though dye it to keep it that way if you're more comfortable with that) and put in a long, side-sweeping fringe. Closest to the photo of the bride (I assume that's what's going on there). I think the straight fringe is a little too harsh, and who needs all that extra work?!

  3. Nic's Notebook

    I def think a side sweeping fringe and either red or a richer brown for the colour depending on how brave you feel. I think you would suit both colours! Let us know what you decide ๐Ÿ™‚ x

  4. Siobhan

    I've got some greys and am refusing to colour my hair anymore after being red and getting bored of red and it taking AGES to grow out.

    So my opinion is biased.

    If you get a side fringe you can clip it off your face, OR you can get a long layers around your face which you can pin into a fringe when you want them, this was my old hair style and quite good and less maintenance.

    Oh and most hairdressers give you free fringe trims.

  5. Lee May Foster-Wilson

    Your hair looks like a similar texture to mine – fine and wispy! I recently had very long hair with no style and the best thing I did for it was to loose a little of the length which gave it more oomph, and got my fringe back.
    I struggled with a side sweep fringe and wispy hair, it was forever falling over my face and over one eye! If a blunt fringe is too much, I LOVE the cute fringe in the pic that is 3rd down, how about something like that?

  6. 3smallapples

    Oh god, I'm the same, expect without your lovely shiny hair! (mine is thick, black and curly… nothing can be done with it!).

    I'd say go for long, blunt bob with fringe. You've got the right shaped face ๐Ÿ™‚


  7. Lisa-Marie

    You have the right colouring for red, I say go for it. If you get a fringe' maybe a sidesweep one (like mine but a bit longer perhaps)?

  8. shopaholly

    I think you should colour it red AND cut a fringe. As someone who has had every hair colour and style in the past ten years, I know that sometimes when you really fancy a change, just one thing won't feel like enough.

    There are lots of times I've had my hair cut and then come straight home and dyed it a different colour. Likewise I've changed the colour and then lopped my fringe off a bit more.

    I have a straight across fringe like in your 3rd pic of yourself just now and agree it can be hard to maintain. Why not get a side fringe like in pic 2 which can easily be grown out or pinned back if you decide you don't like it?

    I've spent the last 4 months being red (always home dyed) but I had to recolour a lot more often than as brunette because the shine fades quicker. I made it last longer by washing every 2-3 days and using dry shampoo in between which is fine for me as my hair is quite lightweight.

    Also, don't forget that it's only hair. I don't think us girls will ever be 100% happy with it and there'll always be a style we covet more than our own. Just be adventurous and do whatever you feel like! Can't wait to see what you decide.

  9. lipsticklori

    Red all the way! I'd recommend Schwarzkopf Live XXL colours as they're bright and kind to your hair (mine stays silky soft and shiny). I won't recommend a fringe though as people might mistake us for twins! Seriously though, the maintenance thing is *so* much hard work. Give your eyebrows a little love and you won't need it. Carefully groomed eyebrows have a magical effect ๐Ÿ™‚

  10. maggeygrace

    I definitely think you should go with red and fringe! I love red hair to death but it only works on people with the right hair type- and from the pictures, you definitely do! You look so chic with fringe too- I say go for it!

  11. Felicity

    Defo fringe. I can't believe I didn't have one until I hit the grand old age of 30 and I haven't looked back since! And from your photos I think a fringe suits you very well. xxxx

  12. Diana Mieczan

    I would go with red colour for sure and side sweeping fringe!!! I bet you will look fantastic, sweetie
    Happy weekend

  13. Elizabeth @rosalilium

    That is some amazing feedback! Thanks everyone. I have lots to think about, but I think I can say bright red and a fringe will feature somewhere in the future.

    And secretly, considering Karina's suggestion…

  14. Kayla Poole

    I say red, but I could be bias ๐Ÿ™‚ you'll look great in anything, I'm sure!

  15. Mrs M

    I'd say go red (but I'm biased). But I do really like the first picture of your hair too!

  16. OceanDreams

    hmmm, red is fun but the only thing that is tricky is the upkeep! but maybe for you it might work out fine…i'm a blonde so it's a bit harder to keep my hair darker shades. i really like your hair all different styles, but layering and fringe always brightens things up!


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